What I’ve Learnt In My First 3 Months Freelancing

What I've Learnt In My First 3 Months Freelancing

Going freelance was something I had been wanting to do for so long but I could never quite pluck up the courage to go for it until a few months ago. There seems to be some misconception that freelancing is a dream and just means you sitting around the house in your pyjamas all day loving life, but it is actually quite challenging and pushes you to go far beyond your comfort zone.

I thought I would share with you what I’ve learnt in my first 3 months freelancing in case you want to go freelance, you’re a fellow freelancer or you just want an insight on how I’m getting on with my journey right now.

It is far from easy 

As I mentioned above, freelancing definitely isn’t the easy road in the working world but that’s not to say that it isn’t enjoyable. Obviously being your own boss you have to do everything yourself, you have to believe in yourself and your service, you have to be looking for new jobs regularly, you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and you have the juggle everything because no one else is going to do it for you.

It’s not always easy to be completely on your game everything single day but I’m learning that this is normal and completely ok too. I quite like pushing myself beyond my comfort zone as it’s really helping me to grow but because I’m the one in control I get to decide how and when I give myself a push which has benefited my mental health.

I like to be flexible 

One of the perks of freelancing is having flexibility which is really important to me especially when I have mental health issues. I like to have the option of deciding what I’m doing when I’m doing it, what I’m taking on and how flexible I want to be. It also means I can make time to look after me properly without the strain of a strict schedule like a regular 9 to 5 would for example.

It’s really important to me that I make time to look after myself and schedule in things that I enjoy doing aside from work. It’s essential for my wellbeing that I have that time to do those things otherwise my productivity and work performance is then affected which isn’t good for anyone.

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What I've Learnt In My First 3 Months Freelancing

The rewards make it all worth it

On bad days when I feel exhausted and have imposter syndrome sitting on my shoulders, the rewards that I get from freelancing soon outweigh the negative feelings that can come up. I love being able to make a difference to small businesses and be a part of their journey. It’s so satisfying being able to help out and try to benefit their growth. I love doing it more than I ever thought I would!

I also love the feeling of togetherness I get from working with small businesses which is another thing I never thought would happen because being a freelancer obviously means you work by yourself, but essentially you’re still having that human interaction and building relationships without physically being there.

I am capable 

For as long as I can remember I have never felt good enough for anything or anyone which I know is some deep routed issue inside of me, but being a freelancer means you have to truly believe in yourself and what you’re capable of which if you struggle with confidence and feeling good enough can be a struggle.

But in the past three months, I have definitely learnt that I am capable and I can feel my confidence slowly growing. I know that I have some confidence in there otherwise I wouldn’t have begun this journey or even put myself out there, but I am so grateful that freelancing has helped me to grow my confidence in ways that I never knew it could.

Rejection is ok 

When I first started looking for clients and jobs I took rejection hard at first because I wasn’t used to putting myself out there and being rejected for things in a good few years as I was out of education and work for nearly four years because of my mental health.

So getting rejected at first was a little bit of a blow because it took a lot of confidence and courage to apply for things in the first place let alone being rejected. Of course, I already knew I wouldn’t get every job I applied for because that just isn’t realistic, but I have got used to rejection now and I understand that it is completely ok to be rejected.

It doesn’t reflect your self worth or what you’re capable of at all.

Not every position, job or company is going to be fit for me and I’m ok with this. I also know that not every freelance job continues on forever and this is normal as well. It just means I get the opportunity to work with more amazing businesses and can continue to build up that belief in myself the further I go through this journey.

Have you ever thought about freelancing?

24 thoughts on “What I’ve Learnt In My First 3 Months Freelancing

  • Great post Lauren! Freelance photography is something I’m considering for after university but I worry that I won’t have enough faith in myself to do it. It’s scary putting yourself out there but it sounds like the rewards are worth it! x


    • Thanks so much, Cliona! I can completely relate to that feeling. But freelance photography sound’s like such a great idea and I’m sure you would be amazing at it. It is so scary putting yourself out there but the more you do it the easier it does become. The rewards are definitely worth it xx

  • Hi Lauren,

    Thank you for this article. I have been considering freelancing for a while now mostly due to anxiety and other mental health issues and that I need to sustain a better self-care and that just isn’t possible with my job at the moment. I am yet to make that step, because every time I think of trying I get scared of being rejected…

    But this was a helpful article which reflects many of my feelings, so thank you for writing this up.

    xx Anna | mylondonandbeyond.wordpress.com

    • Hey Anna,

      No worries at all. Thank you for reading it and leaving a comment.

      I’ve honestly been in the exact same position as you! I’ve found freelancing to be so useful in terms of my mental health and managing my anxiety as you have the flexibility to decide what work you take on and how much time you spend working along with looking after yourself.

      Being rejected is definitely a hard feeling to deal with as no one likes being rejected. I think it definitely helps to make that first step and accept that you will get rejected and if this happens then it’s ok. I’ve been rejected many times before I landed my first position. At first it hit me hard and I felt like a failure, but I allowed myself to feel hurt and upset before I pushed myself to go again.

      Let me know if you need any advise or someone to listen to!

      All the best,

      Lauren xx

  • I’m probably being a bit dippy here Lauren, but when you say you’re freelancing, do you mean you’re pitching to brands for review work? Or, is this separate to your blog and more of a day job? I mean, I know what freelancing is but not sure in what respect you’re doing it, if that makes sense?!

    Anyway, sounds like you’re getting on ok, it dies give you a little more freedom I suppose. Great post! I’ll wait to be enlightened:) x

    Samantha | https://thebeautyspyglass.com

    • You’re not dippy at all, Samantha! It’s completely separate to my blog. I’m a freelance social media manager for a beauty brand Yes the freedom is so helpful and makes such a difference to other aspects of my wellbeing. Thanks so much xx

  • I’ve wanted to go freelance for ages now, but I haven’t got the guts to make that big jump into doing that! What I loved about this post is that it’s so honest about the world of freelancing, it’s given me a lot to think about! xx

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

    • Thanks so much, Lucy! What kind of freelance work are you interested in? It definitely does take a lot to make that first leap but it’s so worth it in the long run. Thanks so much. I’m so glad you loved it let me know if you want to have a chat if you need any advice xx

  • Such a good post Lauren. I plan on going freelance once I’ve finished university so this was a really helpful post for me. One of the reasons I want to do it, it so I don’t have to commit to a 9 to 5, which isn’t great for my mental health!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • Thanks so much, Lucy! That’s so good to hear. Yeah I can relate to that. It definitely helps to have the flexibility xx

    • It definitely does have a lot of stigma and misconceptions to it! Yeah, it definitely has its perks and it’s disadvantages but it’s like that with any job xx

    • Thanks so much, Sophie! It’s definitely best to go for it when you feel like you’re in the right position to and have some courage or confidence behind you should we say. It took me a year to muster up the confidence and courage to go for it. But we’re all different and it will definitely feel right when you’re ready to go for it. Although it is worth taking a risk and just going for it!xx

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