How To Deal With Feeling Overwhelmed

How To Deal With Feeling Overwhelmed

Do you ever get that feeling when it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, you feel something so strongly and everything seems to be going around your head with no stop? This is what we call feeling overwhelmed.

I experienced this feeling not too long ago. I had so much to do and I had no idea where to start or where the best place to start would be. I felt completely overwhelmed with how much work I had set myself and I just couldn’t focus on getting started with everything going around my head.

It’s not a nice feeling to experience. It can completely feel like you’re out of control with no way back and even just the smallest of tasks can feel huge. When this happens to me, there are a few things I do to help.

Write it all down

When things feel overwhelming and confusing in my head, one of the easiest things for me to do is to write it all down. Getting all thoughts and feelings that have built up inside down and out in front of me really helps me to see things clearer. This can then help you to identify any triggers and take back control.  Seeing everything laid out in front of you can help you to work out steps to take to move forward in the right direction.

Accept how you’re feeling

You know when you feel something so strongly you do all you can to not feel that way and push it out? Yeah, me too! Do you find it never really goes away though and instead it just feels even more intense? I can relate!

The moment I take a step back and actually accept how I’m feeling the easier the feelings are to deal with. When you feel that overwhelmed feeling kick in, you begin to feel like you’re losing control and the pressure begins to mount.

Stop this negative cycle by recognising the overwhelmed feeling is there and being ok with it. Sure it might feel pretty uneasy and a heavy weight on your shoulders, but feelings do pass, even the bad ones. Accept it for what it is and why it’s there. Then refocus on moving forward.

Be rational

When our minds and bodies are reacting to a particular overwhelming situation, our thoughts are going to be anything other than rational. After you’ve accepted that you feel overwhelmed, then think about how you can work through whatever it is you’re doing more effectively and rationally. Perhaps you could take a new approach or do smaller tasks that will, in the end, mount up to a big task.

Push forward

Now you feel somewhat clearer with what you need to do and accept what you’re feeling, remind yourself that it’s completely ok that you’re not in control of everything. Sure life would be pretty amazing if we could control every single thing, but it doesn’t work like that and life is set to throw us some challenges.

Instead of running from these feelings and shying away from the lack of control, take some responsibility and work through what it is you need to one step at a time. Make a start. It does not matter if you cannot do it all.

Seek help

One thing us humans aren’t always great at is seeking help when we really need it. We get so wrapped up in the idea that we must do everything by ourselves and that if we ask for help, then it makes us inadequate. This could not be further from the reality!

Seeking help when you feel overwhelmed can help you massively. You have the chance to get everything off your chest and talk it all through with someone else. Together you can both rationalise the situation, collect advice, but also care for those feelings and accept them for what they are. That’s just as important, if not more so.

It can also help you to feel less alone with whatever you’re going through.

Learn to say no

Another way you can learn to accept the overwhelmed feelings is by learning to say no. Sometimes you just can’t do everything. We’re not all amazing at every single thing. The world would probably be very boring if we were all the same and could do everything. What makes us unique and incredible in our way is that we have our own qualities.

If someone asks you to do something extra or something way unfamiliar to you, then think about whether you can before you say yes. Offer them a genuine alternative and don’t feel bad for putting yourself first. Even if they are a little annoyed at first, in the long run, they’ll appreciate it and it will be a benefit for the both of you.

What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? 

11 Comments

  1. July 16, 2018 / 1:24 pm

    I can remember feeling so overwhelmed when I had my first daughter and thought something was so wrong because I wasn’t as happy as I thought I should be. It took a while for me to accept that it was a normal feeling and that I shouldn’t be feeling guilty about it. I think I really need to learn to say no as well without feeling guilty. Great post!

    Angela at Blush & Pearls

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      July 18, 2018 / 7:35 am

      Aww, Angela! You’re so right. It’s a completely normal feeling to have. In most situations in life, we’re met with this pressure to be happy and excited about a new wonderful change in our lives, that if we don’t feel that way as such, we feel guilty and bad. But it is completely normal to have a mixture of emotions, ones that are negative! Thanks so much, Angela xx

  2. Candice Petersen
    July 16, 2018 / 1:34 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing your tips

    Candice | NatalyaAmour.com

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      July 18, 2018 / 7:36 am

      You’re so welcome xx

  3. July 16, 2018 / 2:33 pm

    Amazing tips, I definitely feel this a lot. Writing things down certainly helps though; getting my thoughts down onto a page for some reason is really calming. Great post x

    Natasha | https://floralsandcoralsx.blogspot.com <3

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      July 18, 2018 / 7:36 am

      Aww thanks so much! I completely agree with you. It helps so much. Thank you, Natasha xx

  4. July 16, 2018 / 4:50 pm

    Really enjoyed this post! Living with anxiety, I feel like I spend a lot of my time feeling overwhelmed. However, I do use a few of the tips you mentioned (writing things down and working on saying no). I’ll definitely be trying out some of the other tips – I feel like I struggle to be rational!

    Bekah | rbekhaj.com

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      July 18, 2018 / 7:38 am

      Thank you so much, Bekah! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. I can definitely relate to that. Anxiety can make you feel SO overwhelmed! I struggle to be rational too. But it sounds like you already carry out some practical steps, so that’s good to hear xx

  5. foreverseptember1
    July 16, 2018 / 6:58 pm

    One thing I really need to learn to do, is say no. I’m so bad at it because I hate letting people down but I end up taking too much on and feeling so overwhelmed which isn’t good on my part. Such a great post as always Lauren!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      July 18, 2018 / 7:41 am

      It can be so hard to learn to say no because as you said, it sucks to feel like you’re letting people down! But you definitely have to take a step back, look at the bigger picture and do what’s best for both of you in the long run. Thanks so much, Lucy xx

  6. Lisa Autumn
    July 18, 2018 / 7:40 am

    So uplifting and motivating! Well done girl!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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