6 Ways To Be Your Biggest Cheerleader

6 Ways To Be Your Biggest Cheerleader

When was the last time you became your biggest cheerleader? Long ago I bet! With many of us preaching about self-love these days, it’s only right that we practice what we preach and become our biggest cheerleaders. We deserve the praise and recognition. We need it to boost our self-esteem and belief in ourselves.

But how do we do that?

1. Talk to your past self 

Most of the time when we go back to the past, we tend to use the past as a negative way to build up evidence to further our negative beliefs about ourselves. Instead of dwelling on the past, use the past to your advantage. Take a look back at how far you’ve come.

What would you say to your past self?

Nurture your past self and boost it up in the same way you would your best friend. You deserve to give your present self and past self all the love. You are deserving of the encouragement. Look back at how far you’ve come and all you’ve achieved since then. You’ll end up surprising yourself!

2. Talk to yourself like you would a loved one

In addition to your past self, address yourself in the same way you would a loved one. When we give ourselves the love and care we need, we’re giving ourselves the message that we respect ourselves enough to be treated in the correct way. This helps us feel better about ourselves and like we’re worth it.

Say what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation as yourself but aim it at yourself instead. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Take it into your own hands and prove to yourself that you can do it.

3. Understand your qualities

What to do you value in yourself?

Are you driven? Funny? Patient? Creative? A good listener?

A good exercise to do to figure out what you value within yourself is to make a note of any ideas that pop into your head when you think about any compliments you’ve received in the past, any achievements you’ve been proud of, any words that sum up you and make you feel good about yourself. Dig deep into those core aspects of what makes you the person you are. Not materialistic views.

Once we’re able to understand our qualities, we will be able to recognise and appreciate the person we are. This helps boost our confidence and our self-belief, making us more eager to go for opportunities.

4. Stop comparing!!!

This is probably one of the hardest things our generation of millennials is facing. With the online world so present in our lives, it can be hard to avoid taking a glimpse into other peoples lives. When we see how well they’re doing, who they’re with and what they’re doing, we can feel a little green-eyed with envy.

Our envy then makes us compare ourselves to the highlight reels we consume on a daily basis, which makes us fall into the trap of putting ourselves down. Get rid of this comparison. You are you. You are incredible and special in your own way.

This is your journey. You’re on your own path, not theirs. Everyone’s journey is different. If we were all the same, it would be boring. You are where you need to be right now. The same way they are. You are your own cheerleader. They are theirs.

5. Find a balance

When it comes to things like criticism, if we’re feeling bad about ourselves already, it can hurt a lot more than it is intended to do. Instead of beating yourself up about criticism, find a balance between criticism and positive feedback.

Accept the criticism, take it on board, but don’t forget about the good responses you have received also. Even if someone else doesn’t give you a positive comment, find it within yourself to follow it up with something you love about yourself.

Criticism can help us move on and improve on the things that are important to us, but positive affirmations help motivate us and encourage us in the right direction.

6. Celebrate your wins

I’ve mentioned a lot about how we tend to focus on the negatives more than the positives, which is definitely apparent when we fail or achieve something. When we fail, we beat ourselves up for our mistakes and make ourselves feel bad, which eventually knocks our confidence and self-worth.

But when we win, we’re not so quick to jump up and down and celebrate. We have a tendency to shy away from our wins. Instead of pushing them to the side like they’re no big deal, no matter how big or small, praise yourself for what you have achieved.

Be proud of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for going for it and trying your best. These are the kind of wins you need to use when you experience criticism that can try to push you backwards. C’mon be your biggest cheerleader!

How do you celebrate your wins?

11 Comments

  1. July 27, 2018 / 8:02 pm

    I’ve been trying to stop comparing myself so much to others and focus on the positives more – this post was very helpful and inspirational! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      August 2, 2018 / 12:41 pm

      Aww, I hope you manage to continue in that way, Melissa. Thanks so much for your kind words xx

  2. August 6, 2018 / 4:06 pm

    Seriously love this post, sometimes I’m always questioning if I’m at the right level for my job, constantly comparing myself to others in terms of work, blog and personal life and it’s really hard to get away from that mind set! It’s just so important to stop envying other people and realise that what you’re doing at your own pace is amazing, I just have to constantly reflect! xx

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    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      August 10, 2018 / 11:09 am

      Aww thanks so much, Caroline! It is so easy to compare to yourself, but so hard to change your mindset. I can definitely relate to the struggle. Yes, I constantly reflect as well. Reflecting on yourself and the life you have is a great way to see the great qualities you have xx

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      August 10, 2018 / 11:07 am

      Aww I’m glad you do, Katie!! Yes it most definitely is xx

  3. August 12, 2018 / 2:40 pm

    What an amazing post! Some tips might seem very straight forward, but they are definitely things I should do more often or just keep in mind. I’m always comparing myself to others and that really doesn’t help me forward in any way. And by the way, I love the tip about talking to yourself like you would to your loved ones! I never thought about it, but I can imagine how that would be incredibly helpful!

  4. August 21, 2018 / 4:46 pm

    What a brilliant post, full of awesome tips! It wasn’t until recently that I really started believing in myself, but now I do I find I’m even more confident than I was before! It’s so important to recognise the things that you’re good and and celebrate your achievements!

    p.s. I’ve just realised my previous comment on one of your other posts was half finished! I’ve been having a few issues leaving comments – sorry!

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      August 21, 2018 / 7:10 pm

      Aww thanks so much!!! I’m so glad to hear that you’ve started to believe in yourself and have found yourself to be more confident. That’s wonderful news. Yes most definitely. Not to worry lovely xx

  5. August 25, 2018 / 8:00 am

    Even though everyone always says to stop comparing, I still find it so hard to not compare. Sometimes I find I’m comparing myself without even realising I’m doing it!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

    • laurennvictoriaablog
      Author
      August 25, 2018 / 2:52 pm

      It’s definitely a habit that is very difficult to break and takes a lot of hard work! I think it’s human nature to compare so as much as we try to not do it, it’s almost an immediate response because it’s how us humans work. I guess believing in yourself and having that inner strength can really help challenge those moments you do compare xx

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