When was the last time you became your biggest cheerleader? Long ago I bet! With many of us preaching about self-love these days, it’s only right that we practice what we preach and become our biggest cheerleaders. We deserve the praise and recognition. We need it to boost our self-esteem and belief in ourselves.
But how do we do that?
1. Talk to your past self
Most of the time when we go back to the past, we tend to use the past as a negative way to build up evidence to further our negative beliefs about ourselves. Instead of dwelling on the past, use the past to your advantage. Take a look back at how far you’ve come.
What would you say to your past self?
Nurture your past self and boost it up in the same way you would your best friend. You deserve to give your present self and past self all the love. You are deserving of the encouragement. Look back at how far you’ve come and all you’ve achieved since then. You’ll end up surprising yourself!
2. Talk to yourself like you would a loved one
In addition to your past self, address yourself in the same way you would a loved one. When we give ourselves the love and care we need, we’re giving ourselves the message that we respect ourselves enough to be treated in the correct way. This helps us feel better about ourselves and like we’re worth it.
Say what you’d say to a friend in a similar situation as yourself but aim it at yourself instead. Be your own biggest cheerleader. Take it into your own hands and prove to yourself that you can do it.
3. Understand your qualities
What to do you value in yourself?
Are you driven? Funny? Patient? Creative? A good listener?
A good exercise to do to figure out what you value within yourself is to make a note of any ideas that pop into your head when you think about any compliments you’ve received in the past, any achievements you’ve been proud of, any words that sum up you and make you feel good about yourself. Dig deep into those core aspects of what makes you the person you are. Not materialistic views.
Once we’re able to understand our qualities, we will be able to recognise and appreciate the person we are. This helps boost our confidence and our self-belief, making us more eager to go for opportunities.
4. Stop comparing!!!
This is probably one of the hardest things our generation of millennials is facing. With the online world so present in our lives, it can be hard to avoid taking a glimpse into other peoples lives. When we see how well they’re doing, who they’re with and what they’re doing, we can feel a little green-eyed with envy.
Our envy then makes us compare ourselves to the highlight reels we consume on a daily basis, which makes us fall into the trap of putting ourselves down. Get rid of this comparison. You are you. You are incredible and special in your own way.
This is your journey. You’re on your own path, not theirs. Everyone’s journey is different. If we were all the same, it would be boring. You are where you need to be right now. The same way they are. You are your own cheerleader. They are theirs.
5. Find a balance
When it comes to things like criticism, if we’re feeling bad about ourselves already, it can hurt a lot more than it is intended to do. Instead of beating yourself up about criticism, find a balance between criticism and positive feedback.
Accept the criticism, take it on board, but don’t forget about the good responses you have received also. Even if someone else doesn’t give you a positive comment, find it within yourself to follow it up with something you love about yourself.
Criticism can help us move on and improve on the things that are important to us, but positive affirmations help motivate us and encourage us in the right direction.
6. Celebrate your wins
I’ve mentioned a lot about how we tend to focus on the negatives more than the positives, which is definitely apparent when we fail or achieve something. When we fail, we beat ourselves up for our mistakes and make ourselves feel bad, which eventually knocks our confidence and self-worth.
But when we win, we’re not so quick to jump up and down and celebrate. We have a tendency to shy away from our wins. Instead of pushing them to the side like they’re no big deal, no matter how big or small, praise yourself for what you have achieved.
Be proud of yourself. Give yourself a pat on the back for going for it and trying your best. These are the kind of wins you need to use when you experience criticism that can try to push you backwards. C’mon be your biggest cheerleader!
How do you celebrate your wins?